resources from me
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Ez (Short for Ezekiel)
Masculine terms & He/ze (Pronouns page)
Xeno-aligned Bigender (Male & Agender)
Neolabels/xenogenders are my hyperfixation! It makes me very happy to talk about and organize them.
22, TME, AFAB, white, American,
Physically disabled, neurodivergent, plural +
Officially diagnosed with DID, PTSD, anxiety & a few other things, & seeking diagnosis for ADHD & PCOS
Requests for flags/coining/etc are ALWAYS open unless I state otherwise.
Sometimes I answer asks instantly, sometimes it may take me two weeks. Sorry for that. I’m never ignoring you because I hate you or something!
Transcribing images is very hard on my spoons ATM, I’m sorry. When I make original graphics I transcribe the text on them. If you ever transcribe something I make/reblog, feel free to send it to me and I’ll reblog it or add it to the post.
I’m not perfect, if I mess up somewhere, misrepresent an identity, etc, please talk to me about it so i can fix it/apologize!
Keeping things concise is hard (ADHD again) but if something doesn’t make sense, feel free to ask me to rephrase
If I ever break a DNI/BYF page, it’s my own mistake not me trying to be an ass on purpose. My ADHD + plurality makes memory wonky sometimes. Let me know and I’ll fix it/apologize!
Do not remake my flags/repost my terms simply for the reason of you being an exclusionist of something I support. Share my terms as they are if you want to share them that bad, and leave notes that I'm a scary inclusionist or whatever.
DO NOT INTERACT IF:
TGCE/Stormy + Kindness-flags/atrosphel-void, rouge-the-bat/bi-lesbian/rougeagainstfanpol or defend them or anyone else on the NCB archive
Heavily focused on LGBTQ+ flag discourse
Or if you allow/reblog/retweet from any of these groups. That includes the attitude of "I'm fine with them as long as they don’t hurt anyone!" or whatever.
Even though I'm a resource account, some things make me very uncomfortable. Please respect my boundaries!
(ESPECIALLY FOR ITALICIZED & BOLDED ONES: PLEASE JUST BLOCK ME AND MOVE ON - I CAN NO LONGER DEBATE THESE FOR MY MENTAL HEALTH AND WOULD NOT LIKE TO BE TRIGGERED)
Allowing/reblogging/retweeting knowingly from these groups allows their influence to spread - Majority of what's listed here harms people just by existing, and if you really think "no it's ok to reblog from bigots/predators as long as they're 'respectful'", I'd rather just not be interacted with.
Also as long as we're here:
A) I dislike people who defend/downplay the actions of the DreamSMP (Not talking about people who hyperfixate and are critical, I'm talking about people who speak over Jewish folks, POC, survivors, etc, by saying "they addressed that and apologized!!" every single time it gets brought up). If you're a fan who can't help but comment on how these people apologized EVERY single time the topic comes up, let's not interact.
B) Do not remake my flags/repost my terms simply for the reason of you being an exclusionist of something I support. Share my terms as they are if you want to share them that bad, and leave notes that I'm a scary inclusionist or whatever.
1) This is a big tag of posts with sources, I don't have enough energy to compile things ATM; Scroll through it
2) I don't like the term "sysmed" honestly, it feels very transphobic to me but in the past I've used this phrasing because that's what someone specifically accused me of being when I pointed out that DID is a trauma-induced disorder
Other places to follow/add me:
The mascot currently doesn't have a real name, I tend to just call them "The Ezgender Lizard."
You do not have to ask to draw fanart!
frequently asked questions
"What does [term] mean?"
A FAQ I wrote about xenogenders that's meant to explain what they are and be a basic introduction
The same kind of FAQ for neurogenders
The same kind of FAQ for neopronouns
A page explaining every term on my DNI
If looking at one of the above resources hasn't answered what you're looking for, you can try searching on genderheaven, there's 4+ years of stuff reblogged there so you can probably find something useful! If these resources don't help, feel free to ask.
"Why do you have so many sideblogs?"
Basically, because my brain's stupid. (/lighthearted) I genuinely get upset at "topics" "being derailed," so I've always made separate sideblogs for different kinds of things. It makes it easier on me to kinda define the topics I want on one blog and only have those topics there.
I'm sure this is some kind of neurodivergence thing, I don't really know. Sorry if it makes things difficult.
"Can you make a term that's...?"
Generally, I can!
If you ask, I'll list genders/terms that might fit what you're looking for. If nothing seems to exist, I can coin new stuff. I generally try to be open to subjects and fandoms but might have to reject certain things based on squicks and triggers. Terms related to cars, Omori, Hazbin Hotel/Helluva Boss are some examples I couldn't do anything with.
When it comes to pronoun suggesting, I try to be a little more liberal and may be okay to suggest pronouns for something I wouldn't want to coin a gender for. (For one, making a list of pronouns is a lot less interaction with a subject that upsets me.)
"Can you promo my blog/post?"
Usually yes! However, my notes are very busy and I WILL miss it if you @ me, you should probably just put "ezgender" in one of the first five Tumblr tags and I'll reblog it when I see it in the tag.
"What can I request?"
On Genderheaven: Flag making, finding terms based on description, general LGBTQ+/MOGAI advice and resources
On Everypronoun: Pronoun flag making, coining new pronouns/finding pronouns based on the themes/aesthetic/characters/etc you provide me, videos where I pronounce pronouns/show how to use them in a sentence
On Aestheticprideflagarchive: Aesthetic/character flag edits, combination flags (ex, a combined aromantic and lesbian flag)
On Oakgraphics: Pride icons and a whole lot of other graphic edit stuff listed here
I used to get pretty uppity about people sending requests to the wrong blog, but I like to think I'm easier on it now. I'll just post your request on the appropriate sideblog!
about my dni
"What is a DNI/RBF?"
"DNI" means "do not interact," and "RBF" means "read before you follow." Both of these are online shorthands that are used by many MOGAI bloggers as quick and easy ways to display their boundaries. This is less relevant in more professional spaces. For more information, I suggest this resource right here.
"I'm on your DNI, can I use this gender/term/flag/etc?"
Well, yeah. These are real identities which have a level of separation from the boundaries I've set - While I did coin/work on these things, my coining it sort of just puts it out there in the world, and if someone comes across it and realizes "oh wow, that's ME" I can't necessarily make them. Un-be that, if that makes sense.
The only exception would be if someone who said they identified as a term was twisting it in a fashion to make it bigoted or predatory (which I have seen with some other terms, ex weirdos co-opting terms like amatopunk to try to make it about literal incest despite the definition and coiner being very clear that amatopunk is not that).
I disagree with a lot of statements made by coiners of terms or flags I identify with, but I can't really make myself. Not be that.
I just would prefer you not follow me/show up in my notes on any of my Tumblrs if you're on my DNI. This can make me very upset. (Most of the terms I work on have pages on the Ezgender Wiki, you can link to that if you want.)
I also don't want you to remake my flags specifically because you are on my DNI. Repost it if you want a post with it, and note somewhere I'm an inclusionist of something you exclude or whatever.
"What does this term that's on your DNI mean?"
"drama," for lack of a better word
"What is the NCB?"
At one point, I found it frustrating for my poor memory that I couldn't remember all the blogs of a user who was arophobic to avoid reblogging from them. So, as a protective measure, I made a Google Doc I called the NCB: The Neolabel Community Blocklist. This was intended to hold sources for events that happened, and list users that one might want to block in advance because their actions might make you not want to interact.
People on the NCB ranged from transphobes and racists to abusers, pro-incest/consang, and proshippers. As of November 2021, I'm no longer the authority on the NCB and haven't been involved with it beyond passing along the receipts I already had (and helping with HTML one singular time).
"Are you... Anti-semitic?"
Not. On purpose?
There have been repeated incidents of me being accused of this on anon. I believe this comes from false and/or unexplained claims to counter me calling others out on ableism and other issues.
No example has actually provided context or a source. I genuinely don't know what's being mentioned, so I can't do anything about it, and these asks also usually come with statements defending someone called Kindness-Flags, who is a Tumblr user I called out for defending TGCE, because she did that so aggressively I originally assumed they were one and the same. That situation is long and complex, and you can check out those links. More than likely, this is Kindness-Flags or a supporter who's mad that I called them out for saying a Google Doc full of sourced examples of being bigoted, along with sourced examples of someone literally abusing someone else and threatening to kill them, was nothing more than "callout culture."
It's also possible it could be in reference to a post I reblogged that wasn't appropriate for me to reblog. It was written by a Jewish person, so I assumed they'd be the authority. However. Someone else who was Jewish messaged me about it. And explained the issue. And I deleted the post. And posted an apology. There's also the time I was accused of being a system gatekeeper when I'm a pro-endogenic man with DID, and the person accusing me of this also calls me antisemitic but doesn't explain why..? This person is literally 15 so I'm not holding it much against them.
TDLR Not that I know of, check me if I am, be aware that because I've called people out on defending abusers/harassers/bigots, anons seem to think they can spread rumors about me.
If I do something noticeably wrong, feel free to contact me about it. But as for this, I literally don't know what's being referenced and Anon apparently is allergic to sources or explaining.
"...Did you force someone to reveal their assigned gender at birth?"
No. This accusation, I know where it comes from directly. I called out Kindness-Flags for what's mentioned in the above answer, and as a result of it, she received asks encouraging her to reveal her AGAB. In fact, here's an anonymous ask that Neopronouns received which is probably from the same anon that K-F received, which was posted May 17th if that means anything. They were under the assumption that TGCE was AMAB.
The NCB has always asked that readers don't harass or be jerks to the people on it. A blocklist is for blocking.
In fact, I literally added to the Google Doc I was maintaining about the situation that I didn't approve of it.
I literally cannot control the actions of other people. I'm not happy people made K-F feel like she had to do that, but I also had nothing to do with it whatsoever and claiming that I did that is blatantly untrue.
"...Did you cyberstalk someone?"
I've unfortunately been accused of cyberstalking by two people who were on the NCB.
No. Cyberstalking is defined by many legal sources as being repeated incidents of interacting with someone against their wishes.
Putting someone's Tumblr posts into a web archiver, and then putting those posts and their URLs into a Google Doc that said "block and move on," and then not interacting with them otherwise is not stalking. (That Google Doc also no longer exists.) I made no attempts to find out personal information about these people, I didn't seek them out to repeatedly message, I didn't threaten them with harm, and I didn't say untrue things about them. I put their usernames on a singular website on a Google Doc so that people uncomfortable with their presence could block if they want. (I personally think anyone can critique me for the creation of the NCB all they want, and I want to be open to critique. What I'm not open to is literally accusing me of crimes.)
- For Starfaerry/Bi-Lesbian, one accuser, it was not untrue that fae is a proshipper, and my main motivation for ever calling faer out is that fae was breaking my own DNI at the time by following me when I found out fae was a proshipper, which upset me greatly. You can read more about the evidences of that situation here.
- For Uncommongenders/Sprinkles, I put kit on the NCB because of kit blowing up at someone in all caps for using a shade of blue in their flag and for being ship "neutral" because I misinterpreted it as meaning kit had identified that way for some time, and therefore was breaking my DNI. Kit was on that Google Doc for 17 days, and then contacted me to be removed, and I complied. Kit and I have barely ever spoken or interacted. You can read more evidences of that situation here.
because of the nature of this page, expect mentions of triggering topics.
❝Truscum are people who believe that dysphoria is required to be transgender, while Transmeds believe that you are only a valid transgender person if you go through medical transitioning. Trumed is a mashup of the two terms.
Both parties have been shown to harass trans people who experience no or very little dysphoria, calling them “Transtrenders” and claiming that they’re only identifying as trans for attention, or that they're just confused about their identity. They also claim that these people are the ones making the transgender community look bad to outsiders.❞
Truscum treated me personally like garbage even when I was a "real" trans person in their eyes - When I didn't use neopronouns, only identified as a binary male, etc. I've always been completely dysphoric, and it doesn't matter. I've also constantly watched these groups be EXTREMELY racist, a good number of them I've encountered outright were white people trying to "disprove" that culturally significant terms like Two-Spirit "don't exist" or are somehow harmful to "REAL" trans people..?
TERF, Gender Critical:
❝TERFs are Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists. They’re infamous in LGBT+ spaces for being very discriminatory towards trans women, as they believe they’re not real women. Some TERFs also believe that transgender men aren't real men,sometimes referring to them as "Lost sisters".
SWERFs are Sex Worker Exclusionary Radical Feminists. They harass sex workers in the name of feminism, claiming that sex workers are the reason feminism is "Not taken seriously".
TEHMs are Trans Exclusionary Homosexual Males. They are cis men who harass trans men, claiming that they are "Invading" gay spaces and "Deceiving" gay men into getting into relationships and/or sleeping with them.They commonly misgender trans men, and harass them if they use the word "Gay" to describe themselves.❞
Anti-MOGAI is a term I personally think is a little silly because MOGAI doesn't equate to any particular kind of political idealogy, nor does it equal those "made up" genders truscum are usually talking about. MOGAI is literally just a proposed alternative to LGBTQ+, and. Uh. Essentially calling yourself anti-LGBTQ+ is not great!
But this is a phrasing these people tend to apply to themselves, so I've included it here. Anti-MOGAI people tend to be one of the other exclusionist groups already mentioned above. They are "anti" the MOGAI acronym, and generally think MOGAI folks are making up genders to be special or something else like that. I wrote an entire ass Carrd about how people misuse the word MOGAI, including how anti-MOGAI folk literally used to spread the misinformation that it was made to include p/dophiles.
(Spoiler alert, it wasn't, that was something else, and anti-MOGAI were saying this about a p/dophilia survivor who was 16 at the time of coining. Because of actions like this, anybody who would label themselves this way is not welcome here.)
MAP: A minor-attracted-person is a term that originated from 4chan trolling, and then became a seriously-used one that usually refers to pedophiles.
Anti-anti, proshipper: Both of these words suck and are unclear about what they mean, but by and large these groups are MAPs with a fresh coat of paint. They enjoy, produce, and encourage material that focuses on "bad ships", which is another term I dislike because it's so unclear and could mean so much - But in these contexts, it's usually incest or minor x adult. These groups enjoy making fictional pedophilic content.
Ageplayer: Sexual ageplay may go by many names (DDLG, MMLB, CGL, etc) but the general concept is that it's a kink for one's sexual pleasure. This is not age regression. Age regression is a psychiatric term for when someone reverts to a younger state of mind, and is often associated with trauma. Age regression is not a sexual thing by default, and for many it's a literal symptom of PTSD and DID.
Some people mix age regression and sex. I don't care what their reasons or excuses for doing so are, do not interact. That's my preference. I'm not passing any judgement on your choices to do, but this is still my preference and my boundaries.
No one who falls under these umbrellas of the above terms should be interacting me. I'm also not debating this, I don't enjoy being triggered.
❝the reason we bring up our trauma when it comes to ‘shipping discourse’ is because we want people to realize just how fuckin serious what they’re doing is. ‘it’s just fiction!!1!’ no, it’s just just fiction, it’s the romanticization/fetishization of childhood trauma that’s created for the sole purpose of getting off to.
there’s not anything inherently wrong with exploring darker topics in fiction, even if you haven’t gone through those events yourself, or even projecting on fictional characters, (OC or otherwise), and using them as a coping mechanism. we have friends who explore darker topics in fiction all the time, and they put the time and effort into doing the research on the characters they’re writing and the exact traumas and mental illnesses that they’re going through. that is perfectly fine, and even normal.
but there is something inherently wrong with fetishizing and romanticizing abuse and trauma because it does nothing but validate the worldviews of people who actually do those things IRL. it makes kids think that adults doing stuff like that to them is perfectly fine and okay. it normalizes things like paedophilia and other forms of child abuse.
when children get desensitized to things like that, it has a severe effect on them in the future and many, many ‘antis’ are living proof of this, such as ourselves. no matter how much you tag it, no matter how many warnings you put on it, your paedo fetish incest fic will eventually make it into the hands of minors and kids, whether you want to believe it or not.
fiction and what people see in (social) media in general has an effect on reality, and if you don’t believe that, you’re absolutely blind.❞
✨ Links: Noagegapsallowed | Proships.carrd.co
"Anti-endogenic"/system gatekeeper: Anti-endos are "anti" endogenic systems, which are systems that don't attribute their plurality to trauma. (That doesn't mean they never experienced trauma BTW, this label is about their own opinions on how their system formed.)
I am officially diagnosed with DID and the host of a traumagenic plural system, and anti-endogenics make me feel unsafe as hell. These people have fakeclaimed me repeatedly, at one point to a 1000+ follower count, because I asked them to not interact. Anti-endogenics have harassed me to the point I injured myself, and then quote retweeted me mentioning that with a goddamn Kpop fancam. Because of experiences like that I'm absolutely not debating you on this and you need to respect that.
✨ Links: Morethanone.info | Pluralpedia | Endogenicsystems | Endogenics have always been accepted in the community
The Neolabel Community Blocklist, or support someone who is: The NCB is a list of people to block. You can find it right here. I made this after realizing it was hard for me to keep track of the URLs of a few MOGAI bloggers I knew of who had been exposed for abusing someone or for other extremely harmful things. I no longer operate it. The NCB is what it says: A blocklist, for people to block and then move on.
The only exception, of course, is if you want to have a genuine conversation about what happened to land you on that list. I'm open to those. If you're going to sit in my inbox and tell me to kill myself because I made the list, I will happily use my blog's IP tracker to prevent you from visiting my Tumblrs ever again, and if it works at the time, make use of a Firefox exploit that will let me know your Tumblr account's URL when you send me anon hate! :)
✨ Links: NCB tag, Cancel Culture Is Not Real, Call-Out Culture Isn’t Toxic, You Are
TGCE, Kindness-Flags: TGCE was the common URL of a popular MOGAI blogger. He made people uncomfortable by being racist to a Native person, and the situation spiraled into a lot of sockpuppet blog making and other related issues, including hateful anons being sent to anyone who so much as implied disliking TGCE.
Kindness-flags, I at one point suspected to be TGCE because of a number of extreme similarities. Whether or not they're the same person, K-F condemned the entire NCB repeatedly and only focused on defending TGCE, which is extremely scary because TGCE is not the only person on there. There are abusers, self-identified pedophiles, and other serious issues mentioned on that list. And repeatedly, K-F only spoke up to defend TGCE in context of that list.
✨ Links: TGCE & K-F's Google Doc | Genderpedia's TGCE page
❝The Dream SMP is a private Minecraft survival multiplayer server run by Dream. It features many prominent Minecraft YouTubers and streamers, including GeorgeNotFound, Sapnap, Wilbur Soot, TommyInnit, Philza, Technoblade, Ranboo, BadBoyHalo, and many, many more.❞
Various members of the DSMP have been in hot water for cheating in speedruns, racism, rape jokes, ableism, transphobia, homophobia, and a lot more. I understand hyperfixations aren't exactly a chosen thing and this is not aimed at anyone who's ever enjoyed this or has this as a hyperfixation - This is more aimed at people who literally cannot let this series be criticized.
PoC have the right to not forgive someone who's made a racist comment even if they've apologized, disabled people have the same, etc. If you find it necessary to comment "BUT HE APOLOGIZED!!!" every time a member of a group these people have hurt says that they're hurt, just block me. If you believe none of these people have done anything wrong, just block me.
✨ Links: Dream SMP Receipts
Omegaverse: Sometimes called A/B/O, but I've stopped using this because those three letters also happen to be a slur against Aboriginal people.
❝The Omegaverse is an alternate universe (AU) of speculative erotic fiction that started in the Supernatural fandom. Smut fics are notoriously nonvanilla, and beyond being extremely graphic, Omegaverse fics have been criticized for depictions of assault and sexual violence because much of it revolves around nonconsensual mating and forced birth. Fics within the Omegaverse often depict feral sex scenes between two male characters, whose "secondary sex" is assigned as "Alpha" or "Omega."
Within this universe, characters are categorized as "Alphas," "Betas," and "Omegas," which is why stories within the Omegaverse are also known as A/B/O fics. Per this thorough guide by Wattpad author Velvelyami, Alphas are the highest ranking in this fictional universe's lupine hierarchy, and whether male, female, or any other gender, are typically characterized by dominance and aggression. No matter their gender, Alphas impregnate others but cannot be impregnated themselves.❞
- What the hell is the Omegaverse, and why is it all over TikTok?
Basically, Omegaverse refers to a fanfiction subtrope that I am extremely uncomfortable with because it's usually loaded with sexual assault, fetishization of gay men, and sometimes even goes as far as to include transphobic 'explanations' of perisex cis men giving birth. I do not want omegaverse fans/people who happily consume this content to interact with me.
Flag Discourse: Specifically, what I'm talking about is people who focus heavily on attacking others for what flags they use for their LGBTQ+ identity. This isn't to say I think this doesn't matter entirely, but if you're on Twitter telling people to die and then quote retweeting it with a Kpop fancam because they used the ""toothpaste"" gay flag, I think you are severely misunderstanding how our entire community has gotten it's progress and need to get new priorities instead of encouraging infighting. (I also just see a lot of straight up. Lying about flag creators when these discourses start. Which is extremely frustrating.)
✨ Links: My flag discourse tag | History of the gay man flag | Toothpastegay.carrd.co
aka i've had this blog for like four years but never really put down guidelines oops
Oakgraphics is my misc editing blog. It's technically part of the "ezgender spectrum", but is a lot more casual than my other blogs and I've had it for long before Ezgender was a thing. I basically just fuck around and make cool icons. In general, I like doing headers (Tumblr, Twitter, etc), icons, phone backgrounds, etc.
You can request:
Shaped Pride Flags
Shaped Flags: I can do most shapes and letters or even spell out words, feel free to go wild. Lesbian star, bigender triangle, whatever random shape you want.
Big Icons: As in, icons that are bigger and aimed at being avatars. These can be pride icons or no, feel free to specify any themes or something you'd like to see. When it comes to pride icons I usually do gender/orientation ones, but you can also request plural flags (ex: endogenic, system protector, fictive), aesthetic flags (halloween lesbian, kidcore demiboy), or neurodivergence flags (OCD, PTSD, etc).
Character Pride Edits
Character Pride Edits: Basically, I put pride merchandise on the character. You can specify what you want, putting pride pins on them is easiest. Face paint, pins, etc, are also doable.
100px Icons: Started off intending these for roleplayers but really they're open for anybody who finds them useful, and that includes headmates, kinfolk, for or whatever else. I used to allow you to request under 100px, but not anymore. You're free to edit these however you need though.
If there's something else you want me to edit but it isn't listed here, feel free to ask! I might be willing to do it.
My DNI still applies to this blog. I would appreciate it if you didn't request, reblog, or use things I've made on your blog if you're on that DNI. Please just block me.
Fandoms I won't do: Hetalia, Attack on Titan, Camp Camp, Vivziepop's works, Friday Night Funkin, and possibly more. This is just for my comfort, sorry.
Favorite fandoms to edit right now: Steven Universe, The Binding of Isaac, HLVRAI.